How does it feel when you have sex for the first time? For both women and men?

I am 23, I loosed virginity last week .

Group of friends from hometown came to city to enjoy, meet their girlfriends and hangout. There is a guy whom I loved so deep during my school days. Whenever he comes to city , calls me . A night we went to movie and club at mid night. I have never been to night movie or club before this. Everything I experienced was for first time, beer, shots . It was morning 3.30 , heck tired and drunk. The rest were still in club having fun, he and I decided to leave to nearby hotel. We reached hotel. Hotel's shutters was down. Nobody there to open . 30 minutes later owner came to open. He had key of 1 room, the room was small with single bed. The moment we slept in same bed without changing clothes. We started chattering. I was almost slept, he whispered you there , are you listening? I answered in a low sound, yes I do, he again replied, I want to kiss you. The time, our toes were touched . He then kissed me gently for multiple times, went more deeper , undressed my halter and bra , kissing my breast. I whispered - no sex, he replied no sex . He went on kissing me, errotic sensation, tingling and numb body, I was drunk either. I could/couldn't feel his contact. Then he undressed me completely. We went slowly, he wanted to touch me his dick. I couldn't . He started finguring my vagina. I couldn't feel it . He tried to insert his penis , but couldn't . Again kissing lips, neck , breasts. After every failure of insertion, he replied no sex. We slept , naked , I was over him, we hugged tightly.

He said, he didn't plan anything, it was on spot and “I care for you , don't want to hurt you, you will bleed” . We never dated earlier , rarely be in contact. The 1st feeling of sex, was questionable 1. How could I have sex without planning? 2. Was that right, when I was drunk ? 3. Did I cheat the person whom I am thinking to be with? 4. Will I feel comfortable , we meet for next time?